In any business in which there is a chance for interaction, whether it is between peers or between employees and customers, there exists the potential for conflict. Conflict is a natural occurrence that is bound to happen from time to time and may even be very helpful if handled correctly. Unfortunately, conflict can cause stress for even the most brilliant leaders.
No workplace is going to be made up of only people who think the exact same way. While the company can benefit from having many different perspectives, sometimes employees may butt heads. Sometimes, conflict in the workplace resolves itself and employees work out disagreements amongst themselves. Sometimes, however, a manager’s intervention is required. If managed correctly, the conflict can actually help everyone involved grow.
It may be difficult to determine when a manager needs to step in. Waiting to intervene can give employees the opportunity to resolve the conflict themselves. However, it’s also important to not let the conflict drag on for too long. Managers can use productivity as a benchmark for when to get involved in conflict resolution in the workplace. If a conflict has escalated to the point where the productivity of either the employees involved or others in the office is suffering, it’s time to step in.
Managers observing any of the following signs should intervene:
The following tips may be helpful in mastering the art of how to resolve conflict at work, or in some cases, the art of defusing conflict before it even begins. These tips may be helpful when delivering constructive criticism to employees, defusing tensions between two employees, or even when dealing with customers that become upset. In fact, these tips may even work when dealing with relationships outside of the walls of the office.
When asked about her thoughts on “brutal” honesty, the author Elizabeth Gilbert said, “Honesty without kindness is not worth the price you pay for it.” When “honesty” is delivered without compassion or empathy for the person receiving it, it often falls on deaf ears. Defensiveness takes over and the person receiving the criticism feels the need to defend themselves, rather than focusing on solving the problem and restoring order.
The best way to persuade others is to make them feel like you truly understand where they are coming from. Listening with open curiosity to what they are saying, asking questions, and repeating back what they have said in a different way often helps to make others feel heard. When the person on the other side of a conflict feels that you have truly heard them out, they will be much more likely to hear what you have to say.
Blaming another person for the way something turned out is a surefire way to begin an argument or keep a conflict going. Instead of placing blame, try to understand the perspective of all parties involved in the conflict (including yours if you are involved in the conflict and not just acting as an outside mediator.) Having a rational and well thought out conversation that is devoid of blame will usually be much more productive than a conversation in which someone is being faulted for their actions.
Many people will delay having a conversation about an issue because they are worried about the conflict that may ensue. While it is wise to let tensions cool before having a conversation regarding a highly emotional incident, delaying a conversation for too long can increase feelings of dread and make it difficult to have the conversation at all. Instead of dreading the conversation, consider all the possibilities of how the conversation may turn out and enter into it with reasonable expectations.
During heated and critical moments, our brains often go AWOL, leaving us poorly prepared to articulate our points. Gathering facts and writing things down before having an important conversation is a good way to make sure that you will not draw a blank when the time comes. In many cases (especially in business,) it is also a good idea to try to stick to the facts, rather than bringing emotions into the equation.
Resolving conflicts in the workplace is an important skill for managers to have. Not all employees know how to deal with conflict in the workplace, so it may be up to the manager to help. Managing conflict in the workplace can be a delicate matter, however. It’s important to do it right in order to pave the way for better relationships.
It isn’t a question of whether or not the workplace conflict exists. If your employees are negatively impacting each other’s performances, there’s a conflict that needs to be addressed. Those who know how to resolve conflict in the first place start by identifying the source of the conflict. What the conflict appears to be about may not be the true source of the conflict. For example, on the surface, employees may appear to be arguing over borrowed pens, but the conflict is really about not respecting the other’s property.
In conflict mediation, it’s important to gather all relevant details. Ask each employee for their version in an open-ended way to get them talking. Take notes as needed. Look for inconsistencies and where the stories do line up. You can also interview other employees who may have been witnesses to the conflict for a more objective point of view.
The next step is to determine the goal of the mediation. Is it for the two employees to agree with each other? Is it to make one decision and then move on from there? Before you get into the mediation process, it’s important to identify ahead of time what the goal of the process will be.
In the mediation, it may be helpful for the manager to encourage each employee to try to see the other’s point of view. By putting themselves in the other’s shoes, they may become more sympathetic and willing to compromise. This can also help employees avoid developing tunnel vision into their own side of the problem.
Conflict can actually be a good thing if it’s handled correctly. It provides opportunities for employees to learn from each other. Think about how the employees and the organization can benefit from the problem and focus on those potential benefits.
This isn’t the first and won’t be the last workplace conflict. You can use it to plan for the future, however, and think about how to avoid similar conflicts. The conflict is a learning experience for the company as well as for the employees.
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